Gay Therapist for Men Who Are Done Performing

Most gay men don’t need more insight.

They need a place where they can stop translating themselves.

Stop managing the other person’s comfort.

Stop trying to be the “good gay” who is fine with everything.

If you’re tired of performing competence while feeling lonely, anxious, numb, or quietly stuck, that’s not a personality flaw. It’s a pattern. And patterns can change.

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Why I’m different to most “gay-affirming” therapy

A lot of therapy is technically inclusive and emotionally useless.

It uses straight frameworks with rainbow stickers. It treats gay men like everyone else, plus some stress. It misses the specific ways shame, desire, masculinity, and belonging actually shape your nervous system and relationships.

I’m a gay therapist. You won’t need to educate me on gay life in order to be understood.

You get to show up as you are.

Licensed therapist. Registered with BACP, NCPS, and HPCSA.

10+ years of clinical experience.
Work is LGBTQ-specific, not rainbow-sticker generic.

I am licensed and registered with these accredited associations and regulators.

How I work

This isn’t therapy where you talk for months and nothing moves.

We start by naming the pattern. Not the symptom list. The pattern.

What you do when you feel unsafe:

  • you perform

  • you chase

  • you shut down

  • you overthink

  • you adapt until you disappear

From there, we build capacity: emotional steadiness, cleaner boundaries, and a different relationship to shame and self-criticism. Not perfect. Just real.

You don’t leave with inspirational quotes. You leave with language, clarity, and something to practice in your actual life.

Who I work best with

I work best with gay men who are intelligent, self-aware, and exhausted by their own coping strategies.

Men who are tired of:

  • repeating the same dating and relationship cycles

  • feeling disconnected even when life looks “fine”

  • running on anxiety or control

  • living in their head and calling it “thinking”

  • wanting intimacy but not knowing how to tolerate it

If you want a therapist who is gentle but evasive, or endlessly validating without challenging the pattern, I’m not your guy.

If you want honesty, steadiness, and real movement, we’ll do good work together.

Practical details

Therapy (EU/UK): online sessions

Fee:
First session (longer + intake review): €145
Standard session (50 min): €135

Response time: I reply to inquiries within 24–36 hours

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Outside the EU/UK: I offer non-clinical mentorship (not therapy).

Mentorship outside EU/UK]

What clients say

  • Before working with Gino, I thought I was confident—but I was just performing. Our sessions helped me connect with a part of myself I’d shut down years ago. I don’t need to prove myself anymore just to feel worthy.

    Thomas*, 42

  • I used to either chase unavailable guys or shut down completely. Gino helped me understand where that came from—and now I’m finally showing up in relationships without fear or games.

    Michael*, 32

  • I’ve had anxiety for years, but therapy with Gino made me realize I wasn’t just anxious—I was lonely in a way I hadn’t admitted. He helped me feel less alone in who I am, not just what I feel.

    Jay*, 28

  • Growing up religious, I carried so much shame about being gay. Gino helped me untangle that without judgment. For the first time, I feel like I can hold my identity without conflict.

    Thomas*, 41

Start here

If you’re ready to begin, complete the inquiry form or book a session by clicking the red button on the side.

I reply within 24–36 hours. 

Fee: €145 per session

Session length: 50 minutes

Location: online (Zoom or another secure video platform)