Therapist for gay men who are tired of explaining themselves

Headshot of gay counselor Gino Cosme

You don’t need another therapist telling you to love yourself.

You need someone who gets what it means to grow up gay in a world that teaches you to shrink.

Who understands the private war you’ve fought with shame, the self-sabotage disguised as independence, the quiet belief that you’re somehow too much and not enough at the same time.

I’m Gino Cosme — a licensed gay therapist in Europe. I’m also a gay man who’s lived this firsthand.

I’ve been the high achiever with a self-destructive streak. The calm exterior hiding chronic anxiety. The adult still haunted by a boyhood spent trying to be lovable by being perfect.

Therapy helped me stop surviving and start living.

Not through toxic positivity or clinical detachment, but through real, uncomfortable, liberating work.

If you’re ready to untangle your past and finally feel at home in yourself, I’m here for that.

Let’s start with one honest conversation.

Why I Do This Work

Before launching my private practice, I worked in places where suffering wasn’t just clinical—it was raw:

a homeless shelter, a community center, an addiction rehab.

I trained in both counseling and clinical psychology, but my real education came from listening deeply to the stories no one else wanted to hear—especially from gay men who’d spent a lifetime holding it all together on the outside, while quietly falling apart inside.

Since 2018, I’ve supported queer men through anxiety, depression, addiction, trauma, internalized shame—and the quiet belief that they were somehow broken.

You’re not broken. You’re just carrying too much alone.

Let’s change that.

I am licensed and an accredited member of these professional associations and regulators.

I am licensed and registered with these accredited associations and regulators.

Why Work With Me? Because You’re Tired of the Bullshit.

1:
You won’t have to explain “what it’s like.” I already know.

I’ve lived it. I’ve worked with hundreds of gay men who’ve felt the same shame, numbness, and inner chaos you might be carrying now.

You won’t need to translate yourself. You can just be you, mess and all.

2:
I bring the real talk, not therapy-speak.

No sterile office vibes. No head tilts and “hmm, interesting.”

We’ll have real conversations, the kind that feel like finally.

You can exhale here.

3:
I work best with people who are done performing.

If you’re tired of pretending everything’s fine…

If you want someone who’ll challenge you with compassion, not coddle you with clichés…

If you’re ready to stop fixing and start feeling—

Then this work is for you.

Why Working with a Gay Therapist Hits Different

You’ve probably sat across from a well-meaning therapist who didn’t get it.
The subtle stuff. The coded shame. The ways you learned to hide your softness just to survive.

You won’t have to do that here.

I’m not here to pathologize you—I’m here to help you understand yourself in a world that often made that feel impossible.

Here’s what we can work through together:

  • Healing the early wounds that still echo in your relationships and self-worth

  • Managing anxiety and depression when life feels like too much and not enough all at once

  • Letting go of internalized shame and learning what real pride feels like

  • Building a self-esteem that isn’t just affirmations, but felt truth

  • Navigating complicated family dynamics or the loneliness of chosen family

  • Finding clarity, meaning, and purpose—without selling out your truth

What happens when therapy finally feels like home.
Real stories from gay men who stopped performing and started healing.

  • Before working with Gino, I thought I was confident—but I was just performing. Our sessions helped me connect with a part of myself I’d shut down years ago. I don’t need to prove myself anymore just to feel worthy.

    Thomas*, 42

  • I used to either chase unavailable guys or shut down completely. Gino helped me understand where that came from—and now I’m finally showing up in relationships without fear or games.

    Michael*, 32

  • I’ve had anxiety for years, but therapy with Gino made me realize I wasn’t just anxious—I was lonely in a way I hadn’t admitted. He helped me feel less alone in who I am, not just what I feel.

    Jay*, 28

  • Growing up religious, I carried so much shame about being gay. Gino helped me untangle that without judgment. For the first time, I feel like I can hold my identity without conflict.

    Thomas*, 41

Take The Next Step

As a gay psychotherapist, I can help you navigate your life through a warm and trusting therapeutic relationship.

A secure, caring environment created just for you.