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ALL BLOG POSTS

Scroll through all of my latest queer-related blog posts and articles. Remember, you are not alone in your quest for a happier, more fulfilling life.

Articles and Blog Posts About Gay Mental Health
Why Gay Dating Feels Impossible (Even When You're Doing Everything "Right")
Why Gay Dating Feels Impossible (Even When You're Doing Everything "Right")

Discover expert advice on dating as a gay man in this comprehensive guide. It covers everything from embracing your identity to navigating the gay dating scene confidently and safely. Start your fulfilling journey today.

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Why Gay Men Struggle With Body Image: Understanding the Psychology Behind Body Shame
Why Gay Men Struggle With Body Image: Understanding the Psychology Behind Body Shame

Gay men are three times more likely to experience eating disorders and body dysmorphia, not out of vanity, but survival. Learn why body shame runs so deep, and what real healing looks like.

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The Ban That Backfired: Hungary’s 200k Rainbow Uprising
The Ban That Backfired: Hungary’s 200k Rainbow Uprising

Hungary banned Pride, yet 200,000 marched in Budapest on 28 June 2025 — the LGBTQ protest rocked Europe. Discover how a crackdown ignited global solidarity.

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Grindr Addiction: When Looking Becomes Compulsion
Grindr Addiction: When Looking Becomes Compulsion

Addiction to Grindr, dating, and hookup apps can affect the mental health of gay men, especially if loneliness, depression, and anxiety preexist.

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Why Gay Men Are Still Depressed – Even When Life Looks 'Fine'
Why Gay Men Are Still Depressed – Even When Life Looks 'Fine'

Discover why success, progress and acceptance can still leave gay men battling depression—and how LGBTQ-affirmative therapy addresses the unseen wounds.

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Hooked on Connection: How Grindr’s AI is Rewiring Gay Intimacy
Hooked on Connection: How Grindr’s AI is Rewiring Gay Intimacy

The emotional effects of Grindr’s AI-driven features on gay men’s dating habits and self-worth in the digital age.

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Are You in a Toxic Gay Relationship? A Therapist's Perspective
Are You in a Toxic Gay Relationship? A Therapist's Perspective

Learn to identify toxic patterns unique to gay relationships from an LGBTQ+ therapist's perspective. Discover how to recognize warning signs, break free, and build healthier connections.

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“Why Am I Gay?” How to Accept Yourself Instead of Not Wanting to Be Gay
“Why Am I Gay?” How to Accept Yourself Instead of Not Wanting to Be Gay

Do you ask yourself, "Why am I gay?" or feel anxious about being gay?. Discover how to know if you are gay and how to accept yourself if you are.

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Beyond Ageism: How Older Gay Men Are Redefining Sexuality
Beyond Ageism: How Older Gay Men Are Redefining Sexuality

This article challenges the narrative of "aging gracefully" and explores how older gay men are rewriting the rules of desire, intimacy, and community.

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Overcoming Gay Loneliness: Support for Lonely Gay Men
Overcoming Gay Loneliness: Support for Lonely Gay Men

Lonely gay men, you're not alone. Explore resources and tips to address gay loneliness and connect with others on our blog.

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From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: Navigating Internalized Homophobia
From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: Navigating Internalized Homophobia

Explore the concept of internalized homophobia and its impact on the LGBTQ+ community. Gain insights into the struggles faced by many gay men and how best to start living an authentic life of self-acceptance.

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If Meta's New Guidelines Allow Calling LGBTQ+ Folks "Mentally Ill," What's Next?
If Meta's New Guidelines Allow Calling LGBTQ+ Folks "Mentally Ill," What's Next?

Meta's new policy allows harmful rhetoric linking LGBTQ+ identity with mental illness, fueling stigma and putting vulnerable people at risk. Learn more.

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From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: 5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Critic
From Self-Doubt to Self-Love: 5 Ways to Tame Your Inner Critic

Are you aware of the dialogue you have with yourself? For many gay men, this inner voice with their gay inner critic can be highly damaging.

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Is There a "Right" Way to Be Gay?
Is There a "Right" Way to Be Gay?

Explore the diversity of gay identities, challenge stereotypes, and embrace your authentic self. Learn how to celebrate your unique gay experience beyond societal expectations.

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Breaking the Bubble: Practical and New Approaches to Make Gay Friends and Build Lasting Gay Friendships
Breaking the Bubble: Practical and New Approaches to Make Gay Friends and Build Lasting Gay Friendships

Discover effective tips and new approaches to make gay friends and build meaningful gay friendships. Overcome social barriers and connect authentically.

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A Weighty Issue: The Hidden Struggle of Eating Disorders Among Gay Men
A Weighty Issue: The Hidden Struggle of Eating Disorders Among Gay Men

Explore the hidden struggle of eating disorders among gay men, including anorexia. Learn about unique challenges, warning signs, and paths to recovery in this comprehensive guide written by a gay therapist who's battled anorexia.

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The Psychology of Grindr Dating: Understanding the Digital Gay Dating Landscape
The Psychology of Grindr Dating: Understanding the Digital Gay Dating Landscape

Dive into the psychology behind Grindr dating and uncover the complexities of the digital gay dating landscape. Get insights to enhance your Grindr dating experience.

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Navigating the World of Gaydar: Finding Love (or Just a Hookup) in the Digital Age
Navigating the World of Gaydar: Finding Love (or Just a Hookup) in the Digital Age

Explore the impact of Gaydar and gay dating apps on mental health. Learn tips for setting boundaries, managing expectations, and seeking support in the digital age.

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Gay Open Relationships: Understanding and Navigating the Pros and Cons.
Gay Open Relationships: Understanding and Navigating the Pros and Cons.

Explore the intricacies of gay open relationships, including setting clear boundaries, managing jealousy, and understanding the pros and cons. Learn how to find an experienced couple's therapist to support your journey.

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Unveiling the Impact of Gay Hookup Apps on Mental Health
Unveiling the Impact of Gay Hookup Apps on Mental Health

Explore the psychological effects of gay dating apps like Grindr on mental health. Learn how to use these apps mindfully and maintain well-being in the digital age.

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Open Relationships in the Gay Community: A Free Pass to Avoid Cheating or a Valid Relationship Structure?
Open Relationships in the Gay Community: A Free Pass to Avoid Cheating or a Valid Relationship Structure?

Are open relationships just a way for gay men to avoid cheating when things get stale? We examine the complex realities of non-monogamy in the gay community, from the prevalence of infidelity to the benefits and challenges of consensual openness. Discover the nuances beyond the stereotypes.

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Gay Conversion Therapy: The Devastating Illusion I've Witnessed Firsthand
Gay Conversion Therapy: The Devastating Illusion I've Witnessed Firsthand

Discover the hidden dangers of gay conversion therapy through a therapist’s firsthand experience with survivors and the emotional wreckage left behind.

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Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma on LGBTQ Individuals
Understanding the Impact of Childhood Trauma on LGBTQ Individuals

Learn how childhood trauma can profoundly impact the mental health of LGBTQ+ people and how to build resilience and live authentically as your true self.

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Step-By-Step Guide on How to Come Out as Gay
Step-By-Step Guide on How to Come Out as Gay

Coming out of the closet is a process. Gay therapist Gino Cosme shares how to embrace your gay identity gradually.

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How a Gay Relationship Counselor Can Improve Your Relationship
How a Gay Relationship Counselor Can Improve Your Relationship

Couples counseling for LGBT couples provides a safe and confidential space to resolve and understand relationship issues.

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Gay Relationship Advice: Tips and Strategies for Healthy Gay Couples
Gay Relationship Advice: Tips and Strategies for Healthy Gay Couples

Discover expert gay relationship advice and tips for building a strong, healthy, and lasting gay relationship. Gain insight into communication, trust-building, and relationship goals for gay couples.

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What is Sexuality and Sexual Orientation - A Straightforward Walkthrough
What is Sexuality and Sexual Orientation - A Straightforward Walkthrough

A person's sexuality and sexual orientation are identifiers of their romantic attraction, desires, and feelings. They also differ significantly.

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Navigating Gay Sex Anxiety: A Therapeutic Guide for Gay Men
Navigating Gay Sex Anxiety: A Therapeutic Guide for Gay Men

Discover effective techniques to manage gay sex anxiety in our comprehensive guide for gay men. Take control of your sexual wellbeing.

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Overcoming Barriers: Empowering Gay Men With Low Self-Esteem
Overcoming Barriers: Empowering Gay Men With Low Self-Esteem

If you are gay, low self-esteem may be something you struggle with. Here are tips on improving your self-confidence as a proud gay person.

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The Spirit of Pride Month, Beyond June: Maintaining Inclusion Year-round
The Spirit of Pride Month, Beyond June: Maintaining Inclusion Year-round

Discover how to carry the spirit of Pride beyond June in our comprehensive guide. Learn how to advocate for LGBTQI+ rights and foster inclusivity every day actively. From understanding to active allyship, let’s make Pride a year-long celebration.

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